A Difficult Mothers Day
The following prayer was shared with me by a friend this evening. It is a powerful invitation to honesty as we prepare to celebrate a Mothers Day. Mothers Day and Fathers Day too often tend to sentimentality, promote stereotypes of women and men, and sometimes idealizes family relationships. It can speak of mothers and fathers in a way that exclude those who are not parents. This prayer reflects an honesty that is required by many to truly honor our mothers and fathers.
A Yizkor Meditation in Memory of a Parent Who Was Hurtful
By Rabbi Bob Saks
You know my heart.
You know me better than I know myself,
So I turn to You before I rise for Kaddish.
My emotions swirl as I say this prayer.
The parent I remember was not kind to me.
His/Her death left me with a legacy
of unhealed wounds, of anger and of
dismay that a apparent could hurt a child
as I was hurt.
Help me, O God,
To subdue my bitter emotions
That do me no good,
and to find that place in myself
where happier memories may lie hidden,
and where grief for all that could have been,
all that should have been,
may be calmed by forgiveness,
or at least be soothed by the
passage of time.
I pray that You,
who raises up slaves from freedom,
will liberate me from the oppressions of my
hurt and anger, and that You will lead me
from this desert to Your holy place.
from The Mitzvah of Healing: An Anthology